Saturday, 31 July 2010

The Bible Tells Me So

Performed By Don Cornell

How does he know)
Oh, how do I know
(How does he know)
Oh, how do I know
(This is how he knows)

Have faith, hope and charity
That's the way to live successfully
How do I know, the Bible tells me so
(The Bible tells him)

Do good to your enemies
And the Blessed Lord you'll surely please
How do I know, the Bible tells me so
(The Bible tells him)

Don't worry 'bout tomorrow
Just be real good today
The Lord is right beside you
He'll guide you all the way

Have faith, hope and charity
That's the way to live successfully
How do I know, the bible tells me so
(The Bible tells him)

So, have faith, hope and charity
That's the way to live successfully
How do I know, the bible tells me so
(That's how he knows it)

Do good to your enemies
And the Blessed Lord you'll surely please
How do I know, the Bible tells me so
(That's how he knows it)

Don't worry 'bout tomorrow
Just be real good today
The Lord is right beside you
He'll guide you all the way

Oh, the Bible says have faith, hope and charity
That's the way to live successfully
How do I know, (oh, how does he know)
How do I know, (oh, how does he know)
The Bible tells me so

Strength From Adversity

Author Unknown

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole.

Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.

Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.

Who Am I?

Author Unknown

Your best friend or greatest enemy, I am your greatest companion.

I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden. I will push you onwards or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do, you might as well turn over to me and I'll do them quickly and correctly. I'm easily managed, but you must be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want something done and, after a few lessons, I'll do it automatically. I'm the servant of all great men and, alas, of all failures as well.

Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures. I work with the precision of a scientist and the passion of a patriot. You may run me for profit or run me for ruin; it makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be firm with me and I will put the world at your feet. But be easy with me and I'll destroy you.

Who am I? I am Habit!

Friday, 30 July 2010

I Am Thankful

Author Unknown

For the wife who says it's hot dogs tonight, because she is home with me, not with someone else.

For the husband who is on the sofa being a couch potato, because he is home with me, and not out at the bars.

For the teenager who is complaining about doing dishes, because that means she is at home, not on the streets.

For the taxes that I pay, because it means that I am employed.

For the mess to clean after a party, because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.

For the clothes that fit a little too snug, because it means I have enough to eat.

For my shadow that watches me work, because it means I am out in the sunshine.

For a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning, and gutters that need fixing, because it means I have a home.

For all the complaining I hear about the government, because it means that we have freedom of speech.

For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot, because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.

For my huge heating bill, because it means I am warm.

For the lady behind me in church that sings off key, because it means that I can hear.

For the pile of laundry and ironing, because it means I have clothes to wear.

For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I have been capable of working hard.

For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours, because it means that I am alive.

Woman Was Taken Out Of Man

Author Unknown

Woman was taken out of man; not out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.

Thursday, 29 July 2010

Are You With Someone Else's Man?

5 Indicators He's Not Yours
By Pandora Poikilos

You met him at a cafe or even at your regular Starbucks. With his rugged features, casual appearance and amazing conversational skills, you're head over heels. There's no wedding ring, so you have it in your head that he's not taken. Or is he? Here's some warning bells that might say otherwise.

It's not the way I smell
He's very particular of all soaps and perfumes at your place to the extent he'll have you buy a particular brand, bring his own or not use any soap at all when taking a shower at your place.

There's just so much work
This one can unanimously take the number one spot at lamest excuses 101. There'll always be work. Come rain or shine. In any situation, this excuse serves as a shield for something else. But that's another story. In this situation, he'll be busier than the President of the United States. He'll be in numerous "meetings" (day and night) so he can't answer your calls or text messages. When you want to meet, it's on certain days because he's just that busy. You can't surprise him at the office because he's out for a lot of "meetings". The list goes on. But, you get the picture. "I want to be with you so much but it's just all this work ...", is a line you are more than likely to hear, very frequently.

There's no invite back to his place
Because you've just met, co-habiting still seems something saved for the future, maybe. However, men connected with this scenario will find it far more comfortable coming to your place for dinner, a stay in movie or even a rare no alarm morning when he spends the night. When you slowly probe into why you can't go back to his place, you'll hear a string of excuses ranging from an untidy ambience (because he's so busy at work) to an annoying housemate. Should the need be, he'd even pay for a hotel room (nothing expensive, mind you because he's probably doing this a lot) or resort to public places to give you and him the thrill of it. On the rare occassion that you are invited for a sleepover or just dinner, you won't have an opportunity to linger beyond the purpose of your visit. You'll literally be shown the door with every single item of yours put in your bag. If you've left something behind, there's no chance you'll see it again.

Time restriction
With complete relation to the above point, you'll find that men involved in these scenarios are completely strict (to the point of being anal) about arrival and departing. They usually arrive a little late, completely stressed out and just as things get cozy, you'll find him edgily looking at his watch. If you probe any further, you'll again hear about how tired he is from work or just that he has to meet a client for a meeting. What he's not telling you is that someone else is waiting for him and you're just this sneaky, tasty bite he had to have along the way.

"I promise you, we'll spend my birthday together, next year"
It's his birthday or a national public holiday. You literally beg him to spend the day with you. Two scenarios take place. First, he turns you down flat with some excuse of being so tired from all the work he's been doing. Two, he does spend time with you but spends the day looking at his phone or is in such a horrifying mood that you'll literally want to do cartwheels to please him.

Sadly, even when confronted, he'll usually sweet talk his way back into your arms. But if someone is scared about showing you off at the places he frequents, remember, he is not necessarily embarassed by you. He might just be too afraid at getting caught.

Wednesday, 28 July 2010

Don't Quit

Author Unknown

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Tuesday, 27 July 2010

If I Had My Life To Live Over

By Erma Bombeck

If I Had My Life To Live Over

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching TV - and more while watching life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love yous"...more "I'm sorrys"...

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it...and never give it back.

Monday, 26 July 2010

Pina Colada

By The Bashful Bartender, 500 Ways To Mix Drinks

*this is a non-alcoholic beverage

Method to savour
- Put into chilled electric blender container.
- 3/4 cup pineapple juice
- 2 1/4 fresh ripe pineapple pieces
- 3 tablespoons grenadine
- Cover; blend on high speed adding 3 ince cubes one at a time.
- Strain into ice filled glasses.
- Garnish as desired (4 servings)

Sunday, 25 July 2010

'Rape' Capital Of The World

By Ann Mawathe, BBC News, Goma

"The rebel leader asked me two things: 'Do you want us to be your husbands? Or do you want us to rape you?'"

Congolese mother-of-eight Clementine speaks in a quiet and hesitant voice:

"I chose to be raped."

She explains: "I told myself, if I tell them that I want to be their wife, they will kill my husband. I didn't want my children growing up saying the one that made our father die is our mother."

Every time they see this woman, they see someone they were not able to protect. But that sacrifice was not enough. Her husband left her for another woman.

"After they raped me, my husband hated me. He said I was dirty. I often ask myself: 'Surely, I gave up my dignity for him, how come he can abandon me this way?'"

A host of different armed groups roam parts of eastern DR Congo and all are accused of horrific violence against women.

Clementine says she will not marry again: "He is the husband I chose when I took my vows in the church. If God wills, he will return." It seems to be a forlorn hope.

Jocelyn Kelly, a researcher with the Harvard Humanitarian Initiative's Gender-Based Violence programme, says the men that have survived these attacks on their families are extremely traumatised themselves:

"They say: 'I can no longer look at my wife.' And every time they see this woman, they see someone they were not able to protect. They feel like failures and the only way they can deal with it is to reject their wife and start over."

This is part of the damage that has been caused by people like Emmanuel, a former child soldier who is now 22 years old. He fought with the CNDP rebel group.

Emmanuel says that they raped to show their anger with the authorities for neglecting them.

"Soldiers or rebels usually rape because we stay in isolated places and we don't get our pay - even if it can come, it doesn't come on time.

"After living for a long time in the forest, you don't see women and so if one woman shows up then all of us, we profit."

_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

The Democratic Republic of Congo is "the rape capital of the world", a senior UN official has said.

Margot Wallstrom, the UN's special representative on sexual violence in conflict, urged the Security Council to punish the perpetrators in DR Congo.

Rape remained a dominant feature of the ongoing conflict in eastern DR Congo, with impunity being the rule rather than the exception, she said.

More than 8,000 women were raped during fighting in 2009, the UN says.

"Women have no rights, if those who violate their rights go unpunished," Ms Wallstrom told the UN Security Council on her return from DR Congo.

"If women continue to suffer sexual violence, it is not because the law is inadequate to protect them, but because it is inadequately enforced," she said.

The UN mission in DR Congo, Monuc, has been trying to deal with the problem by escorting women on their way to market, developing early warning systems and working with local officials, according to a UN statement.

In April, research on sexual violence in DR Congo's eastern South Kivu province produced shocking findings.

The report by the Harvard Humanitarian Initiative showed that 60% of rape victims in South Kivu were gang raped by armed men, more than half of the assaults took place in the victims' homes and an increasing number of attacks were being carried out by civilians.

Eastern DR Congo is still plagued by army and militia violence despite the end of the country's five-year war in 2003.
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Spread Me Fridays - is another segment I have started on the blog to highlight particularly pressing issues that need attention, change or very simply awareness. If it's an issue that has spoken to you, please pass it on. If you have an issue that needs highlighting, then please drop me an email.

Saturday, 24 July 2010

Value Every Minute

Author Unknown

To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.

To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have. You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.

Friday, 23 July 2010

Thursday, 22 July 2010

Fix You

Performed By Coldplay

When you try your best, but you don't succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down on your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down on your face
And on your face I...

Tears stream down on your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down on your face
And on your face I...

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tuesday, 20 July 2010

Maple Gingerbread

What you’ll need
3/4 cup maple flavored syrup
1/4 cup dark molasses
1 cup sour cream
1 egg, well beaten
2 1/3 cups sifted flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoon ginger
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 melted butter or shortening

Method to savour
- Combine maple flavored syrup, molasses, sour cream and beaten egg.
- Sift dry ingredients together and stir into liquid, beat well.
- Add melted fat and beat thoroughly.
- Pour into oblong baking pan, which has been lined with wax paper.
- Bake in moderate oven (350 F) for 30 minutes or until done.
- Before serving, top with 1 mint cream (whipped) or with vanilla ice cream.

Monday, 19 July 2010

Business Plan vs. Business Proposal - What's The Difference?

By William King

Business has a lot of words that often confuse people. People tend to mix their meaning and are unable to differentiate them. Business plans and business proposals are amongst these misleading terminologies. People often think of them as one and the same thing. These plans and business proposals are totally different in their use and nature. Both are documents used in business but both have different purposes.

These plans reflect the long term plan of a business. It reflects the way a business plans to establish itself over a longer period of time. These proposals on the other hand are not meant for longer term. They are an intention to work out a business venture with another business. The intended audience of both the documents also varies significantly. The business plan is intended for the management as well as the lenders and many others.

The business proposal is however a document that is only intended for the other business with whom a business wishes to enter into a joint venture with. Then there is a difference of need. These plans are needed for establishing a guideline for standing up a business from scrap. It usually defines the directions the business has to follow step wise in order to achieve that. These proposals are really not for that purpose.

They are short term and only needed to communicate a business's intentions to work with another business. These plans often help to raise the required capital needed for your venture. Business proposals don't do this sort of work. These proposal can be intended or unintended as well. A large public or private company may give an advertisement about pursuing an adventure and want to get third parties involved through an open bidding process.

Unintended proposals are those in which the large organization is reached by the third party to pursue a venture with them in doing the business. In both cases the purpose is quite different from that of a business plan.

About The Author - William King is the director of UK Wholesale Suppliers and Wholesale Dropshippers Directory. He has 18 years of experience in the marketing and trading industries and has been helping retailers and startups with their product sourcing, promotion, marketing and supply chain requirements.

Is My Child At Risk?

What Are Signs That Your Child Might Be At Risk On-line?
Sourced from Federal Bureau Of Investigations

Your child spends large amounts of time on-line, especially at night.
Most children that fall victim to computer-sex offenders spend large amounts of time on-line, particularly in chat rooms. They may go on-line after dinner and on the weekends. They may be latchkey kids whose parents have told them to stay at home after school. They go on-line to chat with friends, make new friends, pass time, and sometimes look for sexually explicit information. While much of the knowledge and experience gained may be valuable, parents should consider monitoring the amount of time spent on-line.

Children on-line are at the greatest risk during the evening hours. While offenders are on-line around the clock, most work during the day and spend their evenings on-line trying to locate and lure children or seeking pornography.

You find pornography on your child's computer.
Pornography is often used in the sexual victimization of children. Sex offenders often supply their potential victims with pornography as a means of opening sexual discussions and for seduction. Child pornography may be used to show the child victim that sex between children and adults is "normal." Parents should be conscious of the fact that a child may hide the pornographic files on diskettes from them. This may be especially true if the computer is used by other family members.

Your child receives phone calls from men you don't know or is making calls, sometimes long distance, to numbers you don't recognize.
While talking to a child victim on-line is a thrill for a computer-sex offender, it can be very cumbersome. Most want to talk to the children on the telephone. They often engage in "phone sex" with the children and often seek to set up an actual meeting for real sex.

While a child may be hesitant to give out his/her home phone number, the computer-sex offenders will give out theirs. With Caller ID, they can readily find out the child's phone number. Some computer-sex offenders have even obtained toll-free 800 numbers, so that their potential victims can call them without their parents finding out. Others will tell the child to call collect. Both of these methods result in the computer-sex offender being able to find out the child's phone number.

Your child receives mail, gifts, or packages from someone you don't know.
As part of the seduction process, it is common for offenders to send letters, photographs, and all manner of gifts to their potential victims. Computer-sex offenders have even sent plane tickets in order for the child to travel across the country to meet them.

Your child turns the computer monitor off or quickly changes the screen on the monitor when you come into the room.
A child looking at pornographic images or having sexually explicit conversations does not want you to see it on the screen.

Your child becomes withdrawn from the family.
Computer-sex offenders will work very hard at driving a wedge between a child and their family or at exploiting their relationship. They will accentuate any minor problems at home that the child might have. Children may also become withdrawn after sexual victimization.

Your child is using an on-line account belonging to someone else.
Even if you don't subscribe to an on-line service or Internet service, your child may meet an offender while on-line at a friend's house or the library. Most computers come preloaded with on-line and/or Internet software. Computer-sex offenders will sometimes provide potential victims with a computer account for communications with them.

What Should You Do If You Suspect Your Child Is Communicating With A Sexual Predator Online?
- Consider talking openly with your child about your suspicions. Tell them about the dangers of computer-sex offenders.
- Review what is on your child's computer. If you don't know how, ask a friend, coworker, relative, or other knowledgeable person. Pornography or any kind of sexual communication can be a warning sign.
- Use the Caller ID service to determine who is calling your child. Most telephone companies that offer Caller ID also offer a service that allows you to block your number from appearing on someone else's Caller ID. Telephone companies also offer an additional service feature that rejects incoming calls that you block. This rejection feature prevents computer-sex offenders or anyone else from calling your home anonymously.
- Devices can be purchased that show telephone numbers that have been dialed from your home phone. Additionally, the last number called from your home phone can be retrieved provided that the telephone is equipped with a redial feature. You will also need a telephone pager to complete this retrieval.
- This is done using a numeric-display pager and another phone that is on the same line as the first phone with the redial feature. Using the two phones and the pager, a call is placed from the second phone to the pager. When the paging terminal beeps for you to enter a telephone number, you press the redial button on the first (or suspect) phone. The last number called from that phone will then be displayed on the pager.
- Monitor your child's access to all types of live electronic communications (i.e., chat rooms, instant messages, Internet Relay Chat, etc.), and monitor your child's e-mail. Computer-sex offenders almost always meet potential victims via chat rooms. After meeting a child on-line, they will continue to communicate electronically often via e-mail.

Should any of the following situations arise in your household, via the Internet or on-line service, you should immediately contact your local or state law enforcement agency, the FBI, and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children:
- Your child or anyone in the household has received child pornography;
- Your child has been sexually solicited by someone who knows that your child is under 18 years of age;
- Your child has received sexually explicit images from someone that knows your child is under the age of 18.
- If one of these scenarios occurs, keep the computer turned off in order to preserve any evidence for future law enforcement use. Unless directed to do so by the law enforcement agency, you should not attempt to copy any of the images and/or text found on the computer.

What Can You Do To Minimize The Chances Of An On-line Exploiter Victimizing Your Child?
- Communicate, and talk to your child about sexual victimization and potential on-line danger.
- Spend time with your children on-line. Have them teach you about their favorite on-line destinations.
- Keep the computer in a common room in the house, not in your child's bedroom. It is much more difficult for a computer-sex offender to communicate with a child when the computer screen is visible to a parent or another member of the household.
- Utilize parental controls provided by your service provider and/or blocking software. While electronic chat can be a great place for children to make new friends and discuss various topics of interest, it is also prowled by computer-sex offenders. Use of chat rooms, in particular, should be heavily monitored. While parents should utilize these mechanisms, they should not totally rely on them.
- Always maintain access to your child's on-line account and randomly check his/her e-mail. Be aware that your child could be contacted through the U.S. Mail. Be up front with your child about your access and reasons why.
- Teach your child the responsible use of the resources on-line. There is much more to the on-line experience than chat rooms.
- Find out what computer safeguards are utilized by your child's school, the public library, and at the homes of your child's friends. These are all places, outside your normal supervision, where your child could encounter an on-line predator.
- Understand, even if your child was a willing participant in any form of sexual exploitation, that he/she is not at fault and is the victim. The offender always bears the complete responsibility for his or her actions.

Instruct your children:
- to never arrange a face-to-face meeting with someone they met on- line;
- to never upload (post) pictures of themselves onto the Internet or on-line service to people they do not personally know;
- to never give out identifying information such as their name, home address, school name, or telephone number;
- to never download pictures from an unknown source, as there is a good chance there could be sexually explicit images;
- to never respond to messages or bulletin board postings that are suggestive, obscene, belligerent, or harassing;
that whatever they are told on-line may or may not be true.

Frequently Asked Questions:

My child has received an e-mail advertising for a pornographic website, what should I do?
Generally, advertising for an adult, pornographic website that is sent to an e-mail address does not violate federal law or the current laws of most states. In some states it may be a violation of law if the sender knows the recipient is under the age of 18. Such advertising can be reported to your service provider and, if known, the service provider of the originator. It can also be reported to your state and federal legislators, so they can be made aware of the extent of the problem.

Is any service safer than the others?
Sex offenders have contacted children via most of the major on-line services and the Internet. The most important factors in keeping your child safe on-line are the utilization of appropriate blocking software and/or parental controls, along with open, honest discussions with your child, monitoring his/her on-line activity, and following the tips in this pamphlet.

Should I just forbid my child from going on-line?
There are dangers in every part of our society. By educating your children to these dangers and taking appropriate steps to protect them, they can benefit from the wealth of information now available on-line.

Helpful Definitions:
Internet - An immense, global network that connects computers via telephone lines and/or fiber networks to storehouses of electronic information. With only a computer, a modem, a telephone line and a service provider, people from all over the world can communicate and share information with little more than a few keystrokes.

Bulletin Board Systems (BBSs) - Electronic networks of computers that are connected by a central computer setup and operated by a system administrator or operator and are distinguishable from the Internet by their "dial-up" accessibility. BBS users link their individual computers to the central BBS computer by a modem which allows them to post messages, read messages left by others, trade information, or hold direct conversations. Access to a BBS can, and often is, privileged and limited to those users who have access privileges granted by the systems operator.

Commercial On-line Service (COS) - Examples of COSs are America Online, Prodigy, CompuServe and Microsoft Network, which provide access to their service for a fee. COSs generally offer limited access to the Internet as part of their total service package.

Internet Service Provider (ISP) - Examples of ISPs are Erols, Concentric and Netcom. These services offer direct, full access to the Internet at a flat, monthly rate and often provide electronic-mail service for their customers. ISPs often provide space on their servers for their customers to maintain World Wide Web (WWW) sites. Not all ISPs are commercial enterprises. Educational, governmental and nonprofit organizations also provide Internet access to their members.

Public Chat Rooms - Created, maintained, listed and monitored by the COS and other public domain systems such as Internet Relay Chat. A number of customers can be in the public chat rooms at any given time, which are monitored for illegal activity and even appropriate language by systems operators (SYSOP). Some public chat rooms are monitored more frequently than others, depending on the COS and the type of chat room. Violators can be reported to the administrators of the system (at America On-line they are referred to as terms of service [TOS]) which can revoke user privileges. The public chat rooms usually cover a broad range of topics such as entertainment, sports, game rooms, children only, etc.

Electronic Mail (E-Mail) - A function of BBSs, COSs and ISPs which provides for the transmission of messages and files between computers over a communications network similar to mailing a letter via the postal service. E-mail is stored on a server, where it will remain until the addressee retrieves it. Anonymity can be maintained by the sender by predetermining what the receiver will see as the "from" address. Another way to conceal one's identity is to use an "anonymous remailer," which is a service that allows the user to send an e-mail message repackaged under the remailer's own header, stripping off the originator's name completely.

Chat - Real-time text conversation between users in a chat room with no expectation of privacy. All chat conversation is accessible by all individuals in the chat room while the conversation is taking place.

Instant Messages - Private, real-time text conversation between two users in a chat room.

Internet Relay Chat (IRC) - Real-time text conversation similar to public and/or private chat rooms on COS.

Usenet (Newsgroups) - Like a giant, cork bulletin board where users post messages and information. Each posting is like an open letter and is capable of having attachments, such as graphic image files (GIFs). Anyone accessing the newsgroup can read the postings, take copies of posted items, or post responses. Each newsgroup can hold thousands of postings. Currently, there are over 29,000 public newsgroups and that number is growing daily. Newsgroups are both public and/or private. There is no listing of private newsgroups. A user of private newsgroups has to be invited into the newsgroup and be provided with the newsgroup's address.

Friday, 16 July 2010

May You Always Feel Loved

By Sandra Sturtz Hauss

May you find serenity and tranquility in a world
You may not always understand.

May the pain you have known and conflict you have experienced
Give you the strength to walk through life
Facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those whose love and understanding
Will always be there, even when you feel most alone.

May you discover enough goodness in others
To believe in a world of peace.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch, a warm smile be yours
Every day of your life,
And may you give these gifts as well as receive them.

Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.

Teach love to those who know hate,
And let that love embrace you as you go into the world.

May the teaching of those you admire become part of you,
So that you may call upon them.
Remember, those whose lives you have touched
And who have touched yours are always a part of you,
Even if the encounters were less than you would have wished.
It is the content of the encounter that is more important than it's form.

May you not become too concerned with material matters,
But instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart.

Find time in each day to see the beauty and love in the world around you.

Realize that each person has limitless abilities,
But each of us is different in our own way.
What you may feel you lack in one regard
May be more than compensated for in another.
What you feel you lack in the present
May become one of your strengths in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.
Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience.

May you find enough inner strength to determine your own worth by yourself,
And not be dependent on another's judgement of your accomplishments.

May you always feel loved.

Thursday, 15 July 2010

Strongest Dad In The World

By Rick Reilly
Sports Illustrated, June 2005

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I'm lousy.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars - all in the same day.

Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much - except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

"He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life," Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. "Put him in an institution."

But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. "No way," Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain."

"Tell him a joke," Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!" And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that."

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker" who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped," Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks."

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad," he typed, "when we were running, it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!"

And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

"No way," Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, "Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?"

How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? "No way," he says. Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling" he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 - only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

"No question about it," Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century."

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape," one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago."

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

"The thing I'd most like," Rick types, "is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once."


“i’ll you give this, if you give me that.”
- often used in a hostile, blackmail situation.
- actually means, if you give me what I want, you’re weak and I know I can keep coming back to you for more. When someone tells you this, don’t give in. In the long run, you’re better of. Think David Letterman Affair, Thailand Red Shirts.

Tuesday, 13 July 2010

Secret Sorrows

Believe me, every man has his secret sorrow, which the world knows not; and often time we call a man cold, when he is only sad. - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

He That Laughs At Me

The humor goes around, and he that laughs at me today will have somebody laugh to laugh at him tomorrow. – Seneca

Problem Without A Gift

There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts. – Richard Bach

Enemy To None

Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none. -Benjamin Franklin

Castles With Foundations

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them. - Thoreau

Repeating A Story

Remember, before you repeat a story, ask yourself - is it true? Is it fair? Is it necessary? If not, do not repeat it. Keep quiet. Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Shallow minds discuss people. Which are you? - Ann Landers

Spreading Light

There are two ways of spreading light. To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. - Edith Wharton

Someone Who Accepts Us

We wait all these years to find someone who accepts us as we are, someone with a wizard’s power to melt stone to sunlight, who can bring us happiness in spite of trials, who can face our dragons in the night, who can transform us into the soul we choose to be. Just yesterday, I found that magical Someone is the face we see in the mirror. It’s us and our homemade masks. – Richard Bach

You're Having An Affair

"you're the one having the affair."
- often used during a fight with your other half.
* now, if you're not actually having an affair, consider this a very SUBTLE warning.
- what this actually means is that your other half is the one having the affair. "He that doeth, smelleth first."

Monday, 12 July 2010

Service Review - Hotel De La Ferns

Location Cameron Highlands, Malaysia

Address 39, Jalan Besar, 39000 Tanah Rata, Cameron Highlands

Telephone +605 4918888
Fax +605 4915198

(Hotel info sourced from

Named after the luxuriant fern that proliferates in the highlands, Hotel De' La Ferns is ideally located between Tanah Rata and Brinchang. Just 3 minutes drive from Tanah Rata, the English Tudor architecture offers a typically English ambiance in a cool setting.

This boutique resort in Cameron Highlands features 75 well-designed rooms consists of configurations that come in Single, Double, Twin and even Queensize Twin rooms. There are ample Junior and Family suites that are decorated with unique 'Japanese style' sliding doors.

For the ultimate in Highland luxury, there are two duplex style penthouse suites -- 'Cameron Ferns' and 'Highlands Ferns'.

All the rooms and suites have soothing and restful views of the rolling country side and scenic golf course. Every guest room and suite is equipped with conveniences for the modern business and leisure traveler; including HD LCD TV, satellite television and movie channels, broadband facilities and numerous other comforts and amenities like a private electronic safe deposit box, a unique, integrated coffee and tea making set and a fully stocked mini-bar and iron and ironing board facilities.

The Ferns Restaurant offers a range of western and local delights with house specials such as 'Steamboat' which is a 'do-it-yourself' cook-out where skewers of fresh meat, seafood and vegetables are dipped in a variety of steaming hot soup and tasty sauces.

The variety of the freshest salads and vegetables in meals is reflective of Cameron's 'green bowl'. The ever popular English Tea with scones and apple pie is served out on the Patio. The Patio is an alternative dining venue for guests who truly appreciate Cameron's fresh cool invigorating air.

Web Presence Available (Website, Online Booking)
User friendly No

Tourist attractions nearby Yes (
Recommended for Families, Honeymooners, Group outings

Overall rating 3/5
Comfort 4/5
Pricing 2/5

Sunday, 11 July 2010

The Ball's In Your Court

5 Ways to Recover From World Cup Fever
By Pandora Poikilos

One month, once every four years, the words - goal, score, penalty, yellow card and red card carry more weight than usual. Homes are invaded, bosses relax a little and the world in general has a definite news headline, the World Cup.

South Africa 2010 was nonetheless of the most enthralling World Cups ever but still, all good things must come to an end. So, here's how life can go back to what it was before the vuvuzelas became a common household sound.

Get your bills in order
Be it the amazing flat screen, added Pay Tv subscription or numerous football meets to make watching the football matches more exciting, accumulate the costs so you will know how much watching the event actually cost you. For some, we know the figure could be so staggering that they will have a miraculous recovery from the World Cup fever and get to more overtime at work.

Check those emails
For more than a month, almost everything in life has taken a backseat to the World Cup. Emails and letters are no exceptions. They have either left been unopened or opened and not understood. Scroll through your emails. Re-read your letters. Some of it may surprise you. Others may seem completely new to you. Spend your time in providing accurate responses. Days will pass before every single one has received a response.

Go out with friends
There's just one catch to this, for at least three of these outings, steer clear from football friends. Have dinner, watch a movie, go to places you have not been since the World Cup started - anything but World Cup. Some of your friends might have experienced life changing times and this would be a good time just as any to catch up.

Pick a new fascination
You can choose from going speed dating, reading a book, learning to dance, fishing, anything that keeps you happy and doesn't involve football. It will give you something to look forward to and you'll have a new topic to share with your friends.

The most important of them all. Between work, daily tasks, live matches, repeat matches, commentaries and in some cases time differences, your body and mind is deprived of sleep. Set aside a day for yourself, relax (without watching football) and just sleep.

If all else fails, consider this as a prepatory retreat for your next World Cup session, Brazil 2014!

Saturday, 10 July 2010

Scars & Stories

I love this goal because one automatically knows that if there is no story worth telling, there isn’t going to be a scar worth showing.

Over the years, I’ve had an amazing number of scars. Physically and emotionally. Very few have cut very deep and even fewer I’ve filed away as regrets.

What I also know about this goal, is that you cannot fear life. You will take what comes your way and it’ll be a lifetime achievement.

Friday, 9 July 2010


It’s easy to do in the sense you have to identify the necessities you can carry in a bag.
What gets hard, sometimes, is when things don’t go as you planned and you could end up without food and shelter for at least a day.
You are bound to meet loads of people this way. Nice ones, amazing ones, some whom you’ll never go near again … The trick of it would be to not have your guard up at all the time or to build such a thick wall, people won’t have a chance to get near you.
Most of all, be safe but this will be one of the best times you can look back to in your life.

Thursday, 8 July 2010

Wednesday, 7 July 2010

Hot Chocolate

By The Bashful Bartender, 500 Ways To Mix Drinks

*this is a non-alcoholic beverage

What you’ll need
2 1/2 cups milk, scalded
2 oz unsweetened chocolate
1/4 sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Dash salt

Method to savour
- Rinse the container of an electric blender with hot water.
- Put into container about 1/2 cup scalded milk, chocolate, sugar, extract and salt.
- Cover and blend about 1 minute or until smooth and colour is even throughout.
- Add remainder of scalded milk and blend about 30 seconds or until thoroughly mixed.
- Serve immediately (4 servings).

Tuesday, 6 July 2010

One Extraordinary Person

By Christina Abt

In my twenty-six years as a free lance writer, I have worked for newspapers, magazines, Internet sites and businesses of every imaginable perspective.

I have reviewed the famous, scorned the political, embarrassed my family and even interviewed a dog! Yet along my journalistic journey there have been several profile interviews that remain stirringly engraved within my memory. For not only did the character of those specific individuals impress me, they ultimately impacted my life.

Lynn R. Taylor is one such extraordinary person.

Born in Buffalo, New York, on May 2, 1962, Lynn Taylor was just like all the other kids in her East Side, inner city neighborhood. That is until, at age three, she was diagnosed with Wilms Tumor, a cancer of the kidneys. Given a "no-chance" prognosis, doctors completely removed one of Lynn's kidneys and part of another. They then predicted that if she survived to the age of five, she might possibly make ten.

In the decade that followed, despite enduring chemotherapy, radiation and dye tests to which she was allergic, Lynn Taylor met and surpassed all medical experts' gloom-and-doom prognoses. By age fourteen she was in full remission, by seventeen, she was considered cured. Yet in this case, Lynn's medical history was far from closed.

Over the next twenty-three years, Lynn earned her undergraduate degree and masters in economics and assumed the role of college educator.

Subsequently, the respected instructor was awarded a grant to study at the University of Sussex in England. While there, she was invited to teach and simultaneously earned her second masters degree.

Upon returning to Buffalo, the accomplished young woman engaged in a variety of high level jobs, culminating in her appointment as head of Multicultural Affairs at a local college. While Lynn's high level of professional success was most rewarding, it stood in stark contrast to her personal life which was whirling medically out-of-control.

Between 1979 and 2002, doctors diagnosed Lynn with six individual cases of cancer. As with her youthful tumor attack, four of the cancers responded to treatment and were declared in remission. However, in the last eighteen months, the lung cancer, newly appeared, and the breast and thyroid cancers which have re-appeared, have not responded in kind. Rather, they are invasively attempting to conquer Lynn's body.

For the second time in her forty years, doctors have prophesied a limited life span for this resilient woman. Yet with this forecast, they have greatly shortened the time frame from years to months.

To add to the shock of their deadly diagnosis, doctors have told Lynn that there are indications that her right breast, liver, one remaining kidney and adrenal gland are all infected with malignancies. The most inconceivable aspect of this medical nightmare being that doctors believe none of the cancers are metastic. That is, they are not connected to, nor have spread as a result of, one another.

Lynn's attitude about the cancerous war raging within her is simple and forthright. She acknowledges the short life term doctors have predicted. She places no blame for her circumstance. She professes a one hundred percent acceptance of her future, trusting in God. The only distraction to her compliant mindset is that she would like to know why so many cancers have independently invaded her body? It is a question for which she is still awaiting an answer.

In the meantime, Lynn strives to sustain a positive attitude. Her days are spent interacting with the college students she so passionately cares about. Her nights are spent trying to manage an ever-rising mountain of medical bills. Daily, she struggles to regain the strength that the cancers have stolen with support from her best friend/companion Nehemiah, a three-year old Pom-a-Poo.

This gutsy woman fears that her ebbing energy level is a warning knell that soon she will be physically unable to perform her job. It is a prospect she abhors. Yet in typical fashion, Lynn has recently added a new activity to her schedule -- that of cancer hospital volunteer.

It is her wish to provide living proof to patients that cancer is not necessarily a death sentence but rather, as she has evidenced, something to overcome, despite any medical prognoses.

Lynn has positively determined that her ultimate life goal is to spend the rest of her days offering such hope. She dreams of writing a book to reach those she won't have the opportunity to speak to in the hospital, at school, or in her church.

In her own words, "At this point I don't know if I'm going to live to be eighty or if I will be around just long enough to live God's will. But, what I do know is that I don't want people to just remember me for my illnesses.

I've come to realize that I don't want to be defined by the car that I drive, or the home where I live, or the cancers I've suffered. I just want to be known as a person who has faced and overcome a lot with great courage, a person with heart who cares about people and the world, a person who tries to get along with everyone. I just want to be Lynn."

Like I said, one extraordinary person.

Monday, 5 July 2010

Bloody Mary

By The Bashful Bartender, 500 Ways To Mix Drinks

*this is an alcoholic beverage

What you’ll need
6 jiggers tomato juice
3 jiggers vodka
1 pony lemon juice
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1 pinch salt
2 dashes Angostura bitters
4 ice cubes

Method to savour
- Blend for 10 seconds, strain into highball glasses.

Saturday, 3 July 2010

Lost In Translation

(Sourced from Reader’s Digest, January 2009)

A mobster discovers that his deaf accountant has cheated him out of ten million bucks. He confronts him, bringing along an interpreter.

“Ask him where the money is,” the mobster says.

The interpreter does so, and the accountant signs back, “What are you talking about?”

The mobster puts a pistol to the bookkeeper’s head. “Ask him again!”

The interpreter signs, “He’ll kill you if you don’t tell him!”

“OK! OK!” the bookkeeper signs back. “The money is buried behind the shed in my cousin Pauly’s backyard!”

“What’d he say?” asks the don.

“He says you don’t have the guts to pull the trigger.”

Friday, 2 July 2010

Right Now

Author Unknown

Right Now ...
somebody is very proud of you.
somebody is thinking of you.
somebody is caring about you.
somebody misses you.
somebody wants to talk to you.
somebody wants to be with you.
somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.
somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
somebody wants to hold your hand.
somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
somebody wants you to be happy.
somebody wants you to find him/her.
somebody is celebrating your successes.
somebody wants to give you a gift.
somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.
somebody hopes you're not too cold, or too hot
somebody wants to hug you.
somebody loves you.
somebody wishes you would lavish them with small things.
somebody admires your strength.
somebody is thinking of you and smiling.
somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.
somebody wants to go out with you and have a lot of fun.
somebody thinks the world of you.
somebody wants to protect you.
somebody would do anything for you.
somebody wants to be forgiven.
somebody is grateful for your forgiveness.
somebody wants to laugh with you about old times.
somebody remembers you and wishes that you were there.
somebody is praising God for you.
somebody needs to know that your love is unconditional.
somebody values your advice.
somebody wants to tell you how much they care.
somebody wants to stay up watching old movies with you.
somebody wants to share their dreams with you.
somebody wants to hold you in their arms.
somebody wants YOU to hold them in your arms.
somebody treasures your spirit.
somebody wishes they could STOP time because of you.
somebody praises God for your friendship and love.
somebody can't wait to see you.
somebody wishes that things didn't have to change.
somebody loves you for who you are.
somebody loves the way you make them feel.
somebody wants to be with you.
somebody is hoping they can grow old with you.
somebody hears a Doobie Bros. song that reminds them of you.
somebody wants you to know they are there for you.
somebody's glad that you're his/her friend.
somebody wants to be your friend.
somebody stayed up all night thinking about you.
somebody is alive because of you.
somebody is very remorseful after losing your friendship.
somebody is wishing that you noticed him/her.
somebody wants to get to know you better.
somebody believes that you are his/her soul mate.
somebody wants to be near you.
somebody misses your advice/guidance.
somebody has faith in you.
somebody trusts you.
somebody needs you to send them this letter
somebody needs your support.
somebody needs you to have faith in them.
somebody will cry when they read this.
somebody needs you to let them be your friend.

Thursday, 1 July 2010

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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
Smashwords -

3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
Smashwords -

4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

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