Are You With Someone Else's Man?

5 Indicators He's Not Yours
By Pandora Poikilos

You met him at a cafe or even at your regular Starbucks. With his rugged features, casual appearance and amazing conversational skills, you're head over heels. There's no wedding ring, so you have it in your head that he's not taken. Or is he? Here's some warning bells that might say otherwise.

It's not the way I smell
He's very particular of all soaps and perfumes at your place to the extent he'll have you buy a particular brand, bring his own or not use any soap at all when taking a shower at your place.

There's just so much work
This one can unanimously take the number one spot at lamest excuses 101. There'll always be work. Come rain or shine. In any situation, this excuse serves as a shield for something else. But that's another story. In this situation, he'll be busier than the President of the United States. He'll be in numerous "meetings" (day and night) so he can't answer your calls or text messages. When you want to meet, it's on certain days because he's just that busy. You can't surprise him at the office because he's out for a lot of "meetings". The list goes on. But, you get the picture. "I want to be with you so much but it's just all this work ...", is a line you are more than likely to hear, very frequently.

There's no invite back to his place
Because you've just met, co-habiting still seems something saved for the future, maybe. However, men connected with this scenario will find it far more comfortable coming to your place for dinner, a stay in movie or even a rare no alarm morning when he spends the night. When you slowly probe into why you can't go back to his place, you'll hear a string of excuses ranging from an untidy ambience (because he's so busy at work) to an annoying housemate. Should the need be, he'd even pay for a hotel room (nothing expensive, mind you because he's probably doing this a lot) or resort to public places to give you and him the thrill of it. On the rare occassion that you are invited for a sleepover or just dinner, you won't have an opportunity to linger beyond the purpose of your visit. You'll literally be shown the door with every single item of yours put in your bag. If you've left something behind, there's no chance you'll see it again.

Time restriction
With complete relation to the above point, you'll find that men involved in these scenarios are completely strict (to the point of being anal) about arrival and departing. They usually arrive a little late, completely stressed out and just as things get cozy, you'll find him edgily looking at his watch. If you probe any further, you'll again hear about how tired he is from work or just that he has to meet a client for a meeting. What he's not telling you is that someone else is waiting for him and you're just this sneaky, tasty bite he had to have along the way.

"I promise you, we'll spend my birthday together, next year"
It's his birthday or a national public holiday. You literally beg him to spend the day with you. Two scenarios take place. First, he turns you down flat with some excuse of being so tired from all the work he's been doing. Two, he does spend time with you but spends the day looking at his phone or is in such a horrifying mood that you'll literally want to do cartwheels to please him.

Sadly, even when confronted, he'll usually sweet talk his way back into your arms. But if someone is scared about showing you off at the places he frequents, remember, he is not necessarily embarassed by you. He might just be too afraid at getting caught.