Where Were You?

“where the hell were you?!?!”
- usually used after one party has experienced a really bad patch and then finds out that they are being advised on how it SHOULD have been done.
- actually means, I needed you and you were nowhere to be found. Now, don’t you dare tell me how to feel. This one’s a little tricky. Sometimes when a person has been hurt so much or experiencing something really tough, they are beyond expectations of what others can do for them and like a hurt puppy they’ll retract their paw instead of showing you where it hurts. If this is important to the person and the person is important to you, just be there. Yes, even without the person asking. You’d be surprised what just being silent and being there can do. And eventually, the words will come, for you and for the other person.