Wednesday, 13 July 2011

Tool Time Self-Improvement

By Paula Renaye

I loved Home Improvement when it first came on and still enjoy watching the reruns. Although it generally seems that Tim is an idiot, he really isn't. He actually knows his stuff on home improvements.

However, he's also a competitive know-it-all, which trumps everything else and leads him down the stupid trail. I just watched him use a chainsaw on the Thanksgiving turkey. Not a great decision, Tool Man.

How about you? Do you use the right tool for the job? When you need a hammer, do you use one or do you grab whatever's handy and make do? Ever used a knife instead of a screwdriver? Used a screwdriver instead of taking the time to track down a chisel?

Okay, let's be honest here (yes, it's unpleasant, but let's do it anyway), I have done all of those things—knowingly and on purpose. I knew what tool I needed, I just didn't want to bother. It was easier to just make do and move along.

It's pretty easy to see how using a knife for a screwdriver can go bad—really bad. But even if your poor choice doesn’t result in major bloodletting, it can still make a mess that's not so easy to correct.

The same is true for personal choices. If you keep using whatever quick fix is handy to "get by," such as partying, platitudes, shopping, sex or silence, there will come a point when either the “tool” breaks or you get hurt—probably both.

When you don’t speak your truth the first time the situation comes up, you’re basically setting the countdown on a time bomb. You may think that gritting your teeth and pretending it doesn’t matter is making things okay. It isn’t.

You can’t fake happy on an energetic level—people know, especially those closest to you. So, either you’re going to explode or the other person will from feeling something is wrong but not knowing what.

And, the longer you let it go, the odds of the words coming out in a kind and compassionate way diminish to about slim to none. Also, once you don’t speak your truth about one thing, it becomes harder to speak it about anything.

When we’re struggling with a situation or relationship, we sometimes think we’re the only one who’s unhappy. That may be the case, but more likely the other person is just as unhappy. Both people are just “making do” instead of using the right tools, such as honesty, communication, consideration and compromise, to fix the real problems.

Are you better at self improvement than Tim is at home improvement? Are you taking the time to use the right tools for the job, or just making do and hoping things will fix themselves?

Sure, do like Tim and go for "more power," but only in a wise and good way. It makes living your joy so much easier!

Paula Renaye is a certified professional coach, life transformation speaker, regression hypnosis practitioner and award-winning author of the newly released Hardline Self Help Handbook. Visit for details and more self improvement tips.


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
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3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
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4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
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5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

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Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

Blog-A-Licious - tbaoo



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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Toby & Max

Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


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