Wednesday, 23 May 2012

More Than a Feeling

By Paula Renaye 

If you’re a fan of the band Boston or grew up in the 70s, you probably can’t read the words “more than a feeling” and not hear the tune in your head--one automatically leads to the other. It’s the same with feelings and thoughts--they are linked together even if you don’t consciously realize it. 

For example, it makes perfect sense that you’d feel anger when the boss praises the resident brown-noser, who does absolutely nothing, for being the hardest worker of the group. But, what’s going on besides the obvious? What’s the deeper meaning for you? 

Well, you may think the situation is horribly unfair and unjust, and if you had a decent boss, you’d be the one getting the kudos because you’re the one doing the hard work. You might also think that since you won’t stoop to being a suck-up, the boss is never going to notice you and you'll never get ahead, so why even try.
There are all kinds of possibilities for why you feel as you do, but if you haven't taken the time to really think about it, you don't really know. And it's critical that you do, because if you don't, you will spend your life trying to find ways to tolerate a situation that could possibly be handled differently.

Start by asking yourself if your boss’ actions are somehow validating a limiting belief you have about yourself. Is there a part of you that feels less than? Do you believe that everybody is miserable in their job? Do you believe you'll never get ahead no matter what you do? What are your beliefs about success? Do you believe that the only people who get ahead are the ones who lie, cheat, steal or don't work for it? How does what you’re feeling and thinking support your self-worth? How do you take personal responsibility for the way things are in your life--including the fact that you work for a boss who’s an immature jerk? 

When you have a strong emotional reaction to something, there's a reason--it is more than a feeling--or at least more than the first reactive one. So, when you feel it, follow it and find out what’s really going on--find the belief that's creating your reaction. You might be surprised to discover it's a belief that's only true if you make it so. 

You have no control over what someone else does. You only have control over what you think, believe and do. And that is an amazing power. Own it!


Paula Renaye is a certified professional coach, motivational speaker and award-winning author. Paula's passion is helping women transform the trauma and turmoil of divorce into a profound awakening of self and life purpose.


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
Smashwords -

3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
Smashwords -

4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

Blog-A-Licius - Sherbet Blossom



Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

Blog-A-Licious - tbaoo



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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Toby & Max

Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


My Awards - September 2010

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