Thursday, 13 December 2012

Paula Renaye - It’s Only Stupid If….

by Paula Renaye 

I was having lunch with my friend and colleague C. W. Miller, and I was telling him about one of my goals and the steps I was about to take toward it. The whole thing sounded pretty crazy—stupid even—when I said it, which I acknowledged. C. W., however, just laughed and said, “It’s only stupid if it doesn’t work.”


Ha! I’d never thought of it that way, but he’s absolutely right, because if it does work then it was inspired, innovative and genius! Yet, we’ll hold back and totally eliminate that possibility because we’re afraid we might look or feel stupid if it doesn’t work out the way we hope. 


The truth is sometimes things won’t work out the way you want them to, and the old “fear of failure” thing can keep you safe from having to experience that. Of course, it also keeps you from ever experiencing how great it feels when things do work out. Holding back doesn’t keep you safe—it just keeps you contained. It makes you numb. 


And yet, no matter how much you try to “not want,” you still do, and there is a ongoing internal conflict about it. You’re angry, sad, depressed, irritated or just seem to “check out” and don’t really know why. Only you do know. You know you’re not happy with the way things are in your life, but you just aren’t willing to admit it. 


Become willing.


What have you been afraid to admit you want? What have you held back from doing because of what others might think? What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? What would you try if you knew you could never look stupid no matter what happened? 


Whether it is making a change in a relationship or career, going back to school, writing a book, starting your own business or moving to a new place, you can’t be afraid of looking stupid or you’ll never do it—you’ll never do anything. You’ll never really live.


So, forget about whether it seems stupid or not and follow what your heart says. Play the “what if” game—the What If It DID Work Game. Live it out in your mind and feel the excitement of it happening. And, if it doesn’t work out exactly as you thought it would, you haven’t failed—not even close! You’ve done something! You’ve made an incredible leap out of your comfort zone and have embraced a totally different way of being—you’ve become willing to allow yourself to dream and go for what you want. And that is never stupid!

PS: If you have people in your life who routinely make you feel stupid, figure out why and deal with it. People who truly care about you want good things for you—even if it means changes in what you do for them. Ah, but that is another article! Look for it soon!


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Paula Renaye is The Tough Love Coach and award-winning author of Living the Life You Love: The No-Nonsense Guide to Total Transformation. Paula is living her dream of spending Christmas at the beach. She is also sharing that dream with five other women in her Destin in December Personal Transformation Workshop Retreat. Learn more at http://ToughLoveTalk.com.
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Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
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2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
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3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
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4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
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5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

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