Wednesday, 19 October 2011

The Dark Side of Joy

By Paula Renaye 

When I was working at a job I hated, Friday couldn’t come soon enough. I couldn’t wait to have two full days to devote to what I really wanted to be doing—my real work and passion, which is exactly what I am doing as I write this. And as you can probably tell, I absolutely love what I do. But, there is a dark side to this joy.

In the old days, five o'clock couldn't come soon enough on any day, but especially on Fridays when I could go to be without dreading what the next day would bring. But, then I'd blink twice and it would be Sunday, half of which I wasted wishing Monday didn't have to come. 

The last months I was at that job, my stomach churned constantly and it took all I had to get out of bed in the morning and drag myself through the door. I tried my very best to remain positive, chipper and smiling. I kept my clients happy, but in many ways I had been gone for a very long time before my last day actually arrived. 

Now that I’m doing what I love full time, my "problems" are considerably different. I certainly don't dread Monday because it is no different than Friday or any other day. Wednesday does still get my attention, however Hump Day no longer signals relief that Friday’s almost here to free me from the misery called work. Now, it’s the total opposite and I get a little panicky because Friday is coming too soon and I still have so much I want to do. There are simply not enough hours in any day, and weeks seem to vanish in the blink of an eye. 

I'm really not complaining. You couldn't pay me to go back to those days where time dragged on and I felt I had no options but to endure. And since I don't have a time machine so I can go back and have a tough love intervention with myself to nip the nonsense in the bud early, I am making up for lost time today. So, if you know where I can find a magic week where I can pack about 10 years of work--and 20 years of fun--into seven days, please let me know. If I could do that, I think I’d be caught up to where I want to be. I think if I could do that, I'd be satisfied. 

Okay, we both know it wouldn’t. I'd just want another magic week and more time. Because here's the deal, feeling happy and joyful is addictive. It's like the best drug ever--I just can't get enough. And woe be unto anyone who tries to stand in my way of having it. 

In fact, I had a mini-meltdown recently when I found myself around people who were focused on fear and what is wrong in the world. I did okay for a little while--a very little while--but I'm not an enlightened master so I wasn't able to just be a positive Zen bubble in a sea of negativity. I understood that these people needed their fear--it's what gives them purpose--but the more I tried to be polite and endure, the worse I felt. I wasn't angry; I just felt this incredible dissonance inside. It became so bad that I literally fled the scene--that's the only way to put it. The more distance I put between me and the situation, the better I felt. Before long I had my peace, serenity and happiness back. I was back to myself.

And that my friends, is the dark side of joy. It's like spiritual crack. Once you get hooked, you just want more and more. And you will never ever allow anyone or anything to take it from you ever again.

Former eggshell-walker, emotionally-bankrupt wreck and utter failure at keeping her world from falling apart, Paula Renaye uses her journey out of despair into joy as a breadcrumb trail for others. Paula is a certified professional coach, empowerment speaker and multi-award-winning author of The Hardline Self Help Handbook. Visit 

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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
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2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
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3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
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4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

Blog-A-Licius - Sherbet Blossom



Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


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