Wednesday, 24 August 2011

Who Are You Under Pressure?

By Paula Renaye

One way to bring out the best—or the worst—in each of us is to put us under pressure.

Some pressures push us to go beyond what we believed possible—to do what we never imagined we could. Others leave us curled in the corner sucking our thumbs. Still others unleash parts of ourselves we never knew existed—and wish didn’t.

So, the question is, which one is the “real” you? Are you the courageous amazing person who accomplished the impossible? Stayed calm when others panicked? Turned away out of fear? Or the one who came completely uncorked and blew like a geyser, spewing forth the unimaginable?

The answer is obvious—they all are parts of whole self. Some aspects we consciously tend to—and work hard to put a pretty face on. Others are unacknowledged “shadow” sides that crop up and catch us unaware.

And here’s the kicker to it all. When we aren’t being our authentic selves consciously, the pressure builds subconsciously, and eventually all that internal conflict is going to reach a pop-off point.

We can go for years, ignoring the twinges that tell us things are not okay. We may not be happy, but we’re going along and it’s manageable. However, when external pressure is applied—such as from a financial, career, health or personal crisis—it’s like putting all the internal conflict into a pressure cooker and cranking up the fire.

The resentment and anger that’s been brewing for years is going to redline that dial and it isn’t going to be pretty when it comes out.

So, what do you do to avoid an explosion or implosion?

It’s simple: don’t ignore the twinge. Even if it’s uncomfortable—and it is or you wouldn’t want to ignore it—deal with it right then and there. It may not be pleasant, but it will be a whole lot worse if you let it build up.

Life turns up the heat on us from time to time—that’s just life. When you’re true to yourself—when you’re authentically you—you aren’t pretending to be someone you’re not, nor are you pretending that things are okay when they really aren’t, and that keeps the lid off the pressure cooker.

Side Note: I have to share that The Hardline Self Help Handbook has just won the Global eBook Finalist Award, adding to awards from Readers Favorite and the National Indie Excellence Book Awards. Self Help is a really big pond and to be honored with these awards is amazing and humbling.

Paula Renaye is the author of the multi-award-winning Hardline Self Help Handbook. For practical and useable techniques to kick your life in to high gear, visit for more information about this author.


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
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3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
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4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
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5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

Blog-A-Licius - Sherbet Blossom



Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

Blog-A-Licious - tbaoo



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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Toby & Max

Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


My Awards - September 2010

My Awards - September 2010
Awarded By Jo Frances

My Awards - May 2011

My Awards - May 2011
Awarded By Alejandro Guzman

My Awards - May 2011

My Awards - May 2011
Awarded by Kriti Mukherjee

My Awards - April 2011

My Awards - April 2011
Awarded By Roy Durham

My Awards - June 2011

My Awards - June 2011
Awarded By Sulekha Rawat

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