Wednesday, 11 April 2012

Another Lap Around the Track

By Paula Renaye

If you've read my books or blog, you know about Rebound Guy, the man I got involved with immediately after my divorce. It was a wild ride to say the least, and one that at times I didn't think I was going to survive. I'd get fed up with being in turmoil and swear I was done with him. Then, he'd do something to convince me he'd changed and I'd let myself get sucked back in again, believing that "this" time things would be different.

A friend who watched me struggle through the ups and downs, gave me some sage advice once that I will never forget. Being a NASCAR fan, he looked at the world through that lens, and gave my situation a really memorable "spin."

"Well," he said, "you've run this course before and you know how it goes. There's gonna be a crash. It's just a matter of when, where and how bad. But go ahead, take another lap around the track if you want to."

I did. I ran the same track with the same car, the same bad tires and the same faulty steering. And the ending was exactly the same as it had been on every other lap--I crashed and burned. The good news is that each time I went for another round, it took less and less time to slam into the wall. And when I finally hit it for the last time, I jumped right over that wall and got myself out of that loop for good.

We all have to take another lap until we don't need to anymore. No matter what we read or what great advice we get, we will keep doing the same thing over and over until we finally reach our personal threshold of pain. We'll keep on until we finally get it through our thick skulls that if we want a different outcome, we have to either drive a different course or a different car, or both.

If you have a situation in your life where this rings even the tiniest of bells, pay attention and do something different. It could save you a lap or two around your own personal track of pain.

Jump the wall and live your joy now!

Paula Renaye is a certified life coach, speaker and author of The Hardline Self Help Handbook, which has won Four National Book Awards. For more motivational articles and free audio and digital downloads, visit and be inspired!

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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
Smashwords -

3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
Smashwords -

4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

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Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


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