Wednesday, 18 April 2012

I'm Really Good At That

By Paula Renaye

Why is it easier for some of us to say, "Yeah, I suck," than to admit that we do something well?

Is it because we don't want to be thought of as a braggart, arrogant, self-absorbed, narcissistic or egotistical? Are we in some way afraid that we really aren't good, and that if we say we are that we'll somehow be exposed as a fraud? Are we afraid we'll be challenged on our belief--or that someone will come back later and say, "See, you weren't nearly as big a deal as you thought you were"?

The answers are as individual as we are, but the bottom line always boils down to a fear of some kind--fear of not being good enough, of being unlovable, of being abandoned, etc. And because the pain that comes with that fear is pretty awful, we find all kinds of creative ways to avoid it. 

Since the fear is that saying, "I'm good" is asking for proof that you're not, you'll look to others for validation. Someone else will have to pronounce you "good" in order for it to have any "truth" to it--for you. The catch is that it only works for that moment, because nothing changed inside and you'll continue to need proof from others of your worthiness.

When we value ourselves, we don't allow others to set the measure of our worth--to give it or take it away. -- Paula Renaye

Now, I'm not suggesting that you become an arrogant blowhard. That's just a different way of covering the same insecurities--a loud and obnoxious way of keeping others from picking at your house of cards. 

So, if you can't say, "Yes, I'm really good at that," in a matter-of-fact manner when it's appropriate, there are really only two reasons: you're either afraid of what will happen if you do, or you don't fully believe it yourself.

Take an honest inventory of what you're good at and own it!

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Paula Renaye is the author of The Hardline Self Help Handbook--What are you willing to do to get what you really want? For more inspirational and motivational articles, visit


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
Smashwords -

3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
Smashwords -

4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

Blog-A-Licius - Sherbet Blossom



Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

Blog-A-Licious - tbaoo



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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Toby & Max

Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


My Awards - September 2010

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My Awards - May 2011

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My Awards - April 2011

My Awards - April 2011
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