Wednesday, 1 June 2011

Do As I Say, Not As I Did

By Paula Renaye, Author of The Hardline Self Help Handbook

I had a situation come up recently that had me in a bit of a quandary and turmoil about what to do. I was questioning myself on many levels. What did I really want? What feelings did I think getting the "thing" would give me? Was it an honorable motivation? Was ego playing free and loose with my desires? Did I want an easy way out? What was really going on with me?

You'd think, given my profession, that when indecision, doubt or fear hit, I'd know what to do. Well, I do know! I just didn't do it immediately. It took me a day of soul-searching and friend-burdening to get right back to where I knew I needed to be from the beginning—dealing with the issue myself in my own way (i.e., as described in my own book) (big sigh).

So, finally, I did what I constantly tell everyone else to do—ask questions. As I did, I made myself write down every thought that came to mind, and I kept writing until I got to the deepest level of truth for each question. Once I dug deep enough, I had that "yep, there it is" feeling that we all know so well and I knew what I had really been looking for from the situation—and what to do about it. And with that knowing came an immediate sense of relief.

If there is a situation that is causing you angst of any kind, ask yourself these simple questions—The "Big 4" from The Hardline Self Help Handbook. Now, these questions are going to seem simple and you'll be tempted to just gloss over them, thinking you know the answers. Don't. Write them down and then write your answers and thoughts. Write down anything and everything that comes to mind and stay with it until you get that "ah ha" moment for each.
  • What do you want? (okay, this one is easy!)
  • Why do you want it? (be honest)
  • How will you feel if you get it?
  • How will you feel if you don’t?
You have the answers. You just have to push aside the mental chatter, ask the questions and let the truth come up. Simple!

Just do it quicker than I did this week, okay? There was no reason for me to have stayed "stuck" as I did. None! I had all the answers. You too have your own answers—always!

So, next time, when one of us feels in turmoil about something, let's agree to do what we need to and get out of it sooner than I did this time!

And, let's all live our joy!


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
Smashwords -

3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
Smashwords -

4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
Smashwords -

5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

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Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


My Awards - September 2010

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My Awards - May 2011

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My Awards - April 2011

My Awards - April 2011
Awarded By Roy Durham

My Awards - June 2011

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Awarded By Sulekha Rawat

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