Wednesday, 22 June 2011

Movie Messages - Self Help For Self Worth

By Paula Renaye

I realize I’m late to the game on commenting on the movie Eat Pray Love, but I just watched it this past week—twice. The story is about a woman who married young, realized her mistake at her wedding, but plowed on anyway. She eventually divorced and fell into a rebound relationship of infatuation. I’ve lived my version of that same story. And, as Julia Roberts said so authentically in the director’s cut, it ended with “the complete and merciless devaluation of self.”

For me, my rebound relationship was like a bad Hollywood sequel. I took my same faulty script, added a new setting and cast, and somehow expected that this time it would have a good and happy ending. It didn’t, of course. My bad old movie became a horribly bad
new one, and it very nearly destroyed me. The few shreds of self worth I’d hung on to after my divorce were left on the cutting room floor right along with my hopes and dreams. Almost overnight, I became someone I didn’t know—and didn’t like.

In retrospect, the energy, emotion, angst, time and importance I gave to the situation seems incredibly ridiculous. But at the time, my world hinged on the outcome of those gut-wrenching experiences. Hanging on to the relationship really did feel like a matter of life and death. I wasn’t yet willing to do what Liz did in the movie—I couldn’t walk away from what I thought I would die without.

But, to paraphrase Richard Bach in Illusions, even as I argued for my limitations, I knew I couldn’t hold up to that level emotional pain indefinitely. Something had to give. One day, when I found myself knocked to my knees, I began to look for different ways back up—ways that didn’t involve him.

I went to work on my outer physical world by rebuilding my financial house and then buying myself a home. I immediately launched myself into a major renovation, which occupied both my mind and my hands and rebuilt my self-confidence and self-respect. When I took control of and responsibility for making my physical world what I wanted, my inner world transformed as well. Eventually, I was no longer willing to accept the unacceptable. And “just like that,” it was done. I was free.

I haven’t yet made it to Italy, India or Javier Bardem, but I sure like the movie I’m living today. I am happy! And you can be too! Simply start by loving and respecting yourself and taking responsibility for the way things are in your life right now. If you want something different, get busy doing something different!

You can live your joy!

Paula Renaye is a certified professional coach, life empowerment speaker and award-winning author of the newly released Hardline Self Help Handbook. Visit for details and more self improvement tips.


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Books Sold - 6 Nov 2011 to 31 May 2012

Some of you have asked me for my total number of books sold to evaluate KDP Select so here it is. Bear in mind, that results will vary based on genre and author. Good luck and remember, Keep Moving Forward.

Total - 120,836

1. Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out
Amazon Kindle - 42,559
Paperback -
Smashwords -

2. Frequent Traveller
Amazon Kindle - 35277
Paperback -
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3. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 1
Amazon Kindle - 462
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4. Mirror Me Martha (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 281
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5. Drive On Hope (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle - 190
Smashwords -

6. Blog-A-Licious Directory 2012
Amazon Kindle - 1
Smashwords -

7. Pandora's Reading Room 1
Amazon Kindle -
Paperback - N/A

8. The Cat That Barked (Short Story)
Amazon Kindle -

9. Dora's Essentials - Examining Anxiety
Amazon Kindle -

10. Dora's Essentials - Books, Blogs & Smiles 2
Amazon Kindle -

11. Elevenses from Around the World
Amazon Kindle -

12. Genetically Modified Foods vs. Sustainability
Amazon Kindle -

Blog-A-Licius - Sherbet Blossom



Dealightfully Frugal

Blog-A-Licious - The Few, The Proud, The Wife


My Soul Slippers

Blog-A-Licous - Textbook Mommy

Blog-A-Licious - Blue Frogs Legs

Blog-A-Licious - Pretty All True

Pretty All True

Blog-A-Licious - tbaoo



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Blog-A-Licious - The Invisible Art

Blog-A-Licious - Rediscovering Domesticity

Rediscovering Domesticity

Blog-A-Licious - Quiver Full

Blog-A-Licious - Cori's Big Mouth

Blog-A-Licious - Great Fun


Blog-A-Licious - Busy Wife

Blog-A-Licious - Steps To Happiness

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Blog-A-Licious - Toby & Max

Blog-A-Licious - Amelie

Raising Amelie

Blog-A-Licious - Peas In A Pod

Blog-A-Licious - Riley

Blognostics - Poetry


My Awards - September 2010

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My Awards - May 2011

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My Awards - April 2011

My Awards - April 2011
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My Awards - June 2011

My Awards - June 2011
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