Do You Have Green Hair?

By Paula Renaye

One of the first personal development programs I worked with was Tony Robbins' Personal Power. The whole thing is wonderful, but the one concept that really hit home with me, and that I will never forget, is his example of "green hair."

 
The general theme of his message is that if something someone says—to you or about you—bothers you, it is probably because you hold a similar belief about yourself that you haven't owned.

 
To paraphrase Tony's example: If I say to you, you have green hair, it won't bother you because you know you don't have green hair. But, if I say, you're selfish and inconsiderate—and you hold that belief about yourself, even at an unacknowledged subconscious level—you'll feel bad or angry or become defensive.

Think about it. What could someone say to you that would make you feel bad or mad, or make you want to explain, defend or return criticism? What if someone said, "you're fat…you're skinny…you're ugly…you're mean…you're worthless…you never do anything right…you're stupid"?

If any of those phrases caused you to flinch—even a little—it is because there is some part of you that believes it is true. If so, get busy finding out why you feel that way about yourself and then start changing those beliefs!

If you like—and love and respect yourself—it won't matter what others think. I'm not talking about arrogance, that's just a cover for insecurity. It's about truly being good with who you are—warts and all—and working every day to be even better.

If this topic rings a bell—even a little one—know that you can reprogram those old beliefs into new empowering ones that work effectively for you!

Do what you need to do and get busy living your joy!

Paula Renaye is a certified professional coach, life empowerment speaker and award-winning author of the newly released Hardline Self Help Handbook. Visit http://hardlineselfhelp.com for details and more self improvement tips.